The problem is usually not that you do not know “Why do I keep repeating the same patterns?” By the time people start asking this question, they are rarely confused about what keeps happening. They can describe the pattern with painful precision. Different partner, same emotional confusion. Different breakup, same hollow aftermath. Different stage of
If you and your partner keep having the same fight, feel fundamentally misunderstood, or wonder why you can’t seem to break destructive patterns, you’re not alone—and you’re not failing. What looks like a communication problem often runs much deeper. Here’s how psychodynamic couples therapy can help. This past fall, I had the opportunity to attend
Why We Chose Who We Chose in our Romantic Relationships “’If you find your life tangled up with somebody else’s life for no very logical reasons,’ writes Bokonon, ‘that person may be a member of your karass.’” Vonnegut’s Karass and the Roots of Unconscious Couple Fit We often speak of “finding our tribe,” “finding our
Marriage, as Freud might suggest, is a theater where unconscious scripts from childhood replay—a dance of projection, transference, and unresolved desires. For couples entangled in these dynamics, marriage therapy can be a lifeline. Yet, a practical question often overshadows the emotional stakes: Is marriage therapy covered by insurance? The answer, like the psyche itself, is
Humans are, by our very nature, wired for connection, a fact most obvious in our closest relationships. English psychoanalyst and pediatrician Donald W. Winnicott (1975) once (in)famously quipped “there is no such thing as a baby…If you show me a baby you certainly show me also someone caring for the baby.” This is, of course,